Guilt is the emotion we feel if we let ourselves or others down by failing to meet a particular standard. You'll experience when you hurt someone or cause a problem that you could have avoided. The guilt is telling you to make amends and to change your behavior. Feeling guilty for doing something bad may be unpleasant. If what you feel guilty for affects another person, say sorry straight away, and make your apology unconditional. Don't try to justify your actions or shift blame to other people, even if they were involved. Just acknowledge the anger, frustration, or pain that you've caused. The behavior that makes you feel guilty may be a one-off action, such as saying something insensitive. Or it might be something you do frequently, like poor record-keeping, which causes your colleagues recurring problems. It's important to take the initiative and address the problem behavior. This could involve anything from improving your time-management or delegation skills to building a better work-life balance and tackling bad habits. Making positive changes will improve your interactions with others and help prevent repeated feelings of guilt. If you've done everything that you possibly can to make amends and to prevent the same situation from happening again, let the guilt go. The sooner you put your guilt behind you, the sooner you can focus on more productive activities. Mindfulness can be useful in accepting your feelings and beginning the process of self-forgiveness.
top of page
Pick some words and hear them talk.
bottom of page